Why face-to-face matters
I do not provide 'virtual counselling and/or psychotherapy sessions; on the mobile phone with 'face time', via the internet with Zoom, Skype or any other intermediary. However, I do consider this form of contact to be of value. It fits well for some people. My choice to work one-to-one in person, is because I value the professional dynamic and subtle interaction during live therapy. To work with a client 'virtually' would compromise my personal and professional integrity, and the respect I have for each person as an individual. In my opinion, virtual therapy is not the same as the live dynamic process.
An important note: Your safety is paramount. At our Steps 2 Healing clinic in the Lincolnshire Wolds, we have taken good measures in providing safety for each person. Our 'Therapy Room' is a separate room, and not part of our living space. This room is used for no reason other than one-to-one counselling and psychotherapy. We abide by the recommendations of our professional member organisation, the National Counselling Society.
Live one-to-one therapy with Steps 2 Healing
In a one-to-one professional counselling relationship, trust plays a very important part, and provides a stronger foundation for better interactions. You are likely to be more receptive to growth and change if you feel you can trust your therapist. Whilst online, text, telephone or email counselling and therapy has its place in this ever changing world, I feel there is more value in the subjective experience of sitting (at a safe distance) with another person.
According to experts in the field of communication, like Professor Albert Mehrabian, circa 1971, words are only 7% of our communication. 93% of communication is non-verbal. We are all much more than the spoken word. Sitting with someone in the physical one-to-one sense, can allow it to be quicker and easier to develop the rapport and trust needed in a therapeutic relationship.
Feeling emotionally 'held' within your therapy sessions can help you to feel reassured. Yes, this can be done in a virtual meeting. But for me to be fully 'with you' during your inner journey towards healing, I prefer to convey a silent strength, deep empathy and sensitivity that I feel is otherwise diluted when carried out via an artificial go-between.
Listening skills involve much more than hearing your words, and your patterns of thinking and decision making. I do not want you to go away feeling short-changed or disappointed because during your most vulnerable moments you have not felt completely with me. Because those are the times when you will (without realising) display more subtle non-verbal communication which can enable a more powerful lead towards your healing process.
Being objective is not about making yourself distant behind a computer or mobile phone screen. Physically taking yourself out of and away from your regular environment to a face-to-face appointment, can help you to get a better understanding of your current situation. Your counselling and/or psychotherapy appointment then becomes the place you go to for therapy, and your home is your living and social environment. Totally separate.
The situation with COVID-19:
I am a member of the National Counselling Society. As a member, I abide by the society's ethical code of conduct, and follow safety guidelines to protect both counsellor and client in the professional relationship. If you have any concerns regarding this, please feel free to call me on 07949 140 226 or send a message to discuss any concerns.